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But, only 5 percent of fellow smokers preferred dating another smoker, so the tar-filled dating pool is pretty shallow. Posted on July 17, By Metro. Would you swipe left on a smoker, even if the rest of their profile looked good? Photo: Pixabay. Share Post:. About the Author.
Sign up for our daily newsflashes Subscribe. I am simply repulsed with this addiction. I do not think she will ever quit smoking any time soon Something really bad has to happen for her to even have a chance. Sad but a fact. As far as for me, I just can't deal with this anymore. For some reason I can't stand to be around her anymore or even talk to her on the phone when I can hear her light up and smoke! I wish I could just get over this somehow and let her deal with this on her own.
Not sure if I can do this Lesson learned: Non Smokers should never date a Smoker! I just don't get it. I'm a doctor, and I've seen the negative results of addiction smoking in this case to the person involved and family and friends.
One common comment made to addicts is, "Why should I care about your health if you won't? My fiance was addicted to chewing tobacco when I met him and because we didn't start out dating, I didn't care although still it repulsed mebut when we finally decided to date, I pretty much told him it would be an issue for me to date someone who smoked, did tobacco, etc.
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Together we got him off the stuff by using the patch and he's been great ever since, he never went back and it's been about three years. Doesn't mean they have to be a gym rat eating sprouts but not exercising, being notably overweight, smoking etc.
I'm just getting to the age where I'm seeing parents and their friends really starting to have health issues, not being able to travel or other things because they haven't taken care of themselves. My in-laws are pushing 80 and are still quite active I want to be like them.
Damn I'm feeling old today. They are two halves of the same whole.
Halo Cigs asked Americans about dating (or dumping) smokers and 64 percent of nonsmoking men and women said they would not get into a serious relationship with a smoker. There is even a bias. You feel like you can chew less gum out of fear that your breath isn't the freshest, because you know it is almost always fresher than your partner's breath. May 01, I just had a life changing thing happen to me. I am a non smoker who started dating a heavy smoker. It was a very big mistake. I have had a very hard time dealing with this for some reason and feel it has changed me forever. The whole ordeal has left .
Through observing and understanding your interactions with the addict guess what, it's all about you, and not about them at alland where they stem from within you, that is where change occurs. You learn what drives you, and by keeping the focus on yourself not them that is where change occurs in your quality of life, and quality of relationships.
Best wishes. Read up on enabling, on co-dependence, on the step program Al-Anon for people who find themself in relationships with addicts. See what lights of recognition go on for you. Location: In a house on a street in Puyallup, WA. I dated a smoker once.
She was a moderate smoker though. She was also very considerate. Never smoked around me, always excused herself, never asked for special accommodations. She even chewed gum to help her breath so it wouldn't be so bad to kiss her. But the smoke getting into a smoker's skin is no exaggeration.
Let's just say the smoke gets to parts you'd rather it not be. I never preached to her.
I'm sure she knew it was bad for her and gets tired of people telling her how bad it is. I just couldn't deal with the smell. Some of my coworkers smoke. If I have a conversation with one of them, I always take a step back.
It was too bad things didn't work out with her because except for the smoking, there was nothing wrong with her. Dwatted Wabbit. Well, a fine mess you've gotten yourself into now! Guy smell is one of the best parts of being in a relationship, cuddling, and possessing stolen articles of clothing e. Do you think there's anything I might be able to do to help him kick the habit? If he's already disdainful of the practice do you think there's hope?
Any smokers here quit? What did you do?
AlexMogil Member. Aug 6, 10, 1 1, I married one. She still smokes one or five a day.
A friend of mine is a non-smoker that has a smoking fetish, and he's had some success dating smokers, and sometimes it hasn't worked at all. But it proves if you look around enough, you can find that some smokers are fine dating non-smokers. My motto is as long as a girl isn't an anti(I'm a guy), I'd be fine dating that person! For many men and women, smoking is a deal breaker in any potential date. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, about 18 percent of adults smoke cigarettes. If you rule out people who don't smoke, the reality is that you are ruling out thousands - no, millions - of people! Yet the .
She smokes outside. It's not a huge deal except I wish she'd stop for her health. I've tried to help her and she does fine for a while but the social pull really gets her back in the habit. Oct 12, 9, 0 0 Sweden. They taste awful. Apr 17, 5, 1 0. Have you expressed to him that you are vehemently against smoking and the reasons why?
If he hates it then it's worth talking about and seeing if you can provide support for him to stop.
As far as stopping not sure what to suggest. I was never addicted to it as far as I know, stopped cold turkey for months at a time and would do it on occasion or in a certain social setting a handful of times a year at this point. You can try and see if he could transition to vaporizers.
NickatNite Member. Jul 16, 1, 0 0 California. Non smoker here and would and have never date anyone who does smoke. Dec 17, 6, 0 0 Ontario, Canada. Yup, didn't mind at all. I actually find it kind of sexy. Sep 28, 19, 2 0 Chicago.
It's If you can't shame them into reality I would strongly consider dropping them unless you are already attached.
BeatResetsTheWorld Banned. May 11, 4, 0 0. I made out with a smoker once and it just tasted awful. I'm wondering how you couldn't tell in his breath? Unless he smokes fairly infrequently. Feb 1, 15, 0 Liverpool. I am an ex smoker who recently quit with help from friends and GF, so you can try my advice. If he's not a chain smoker then it'll be easy for him to quit if he wants to with some support, and this is where you come of course.
I smoked for about a year and half started summerbut didn't become regular cigarettes everyday kind of smoker until Decemberand for the past four months I tried to quit but I couldn't or rather I never really tried seriously as I would stop for a day and then buy a new pack the other day.
The girl I am with right now hates smoking but she didn't care if I smoked, she used to say "most of the people in my family smokes, even my grandfather who I love the most". I started to avoid smoking when she was around and even when I was with her I'd only smoke away from her and won't do it much she would know about it, it's just that I didn't wanted her to see me smoking.
Then last month I just said alright I've enjoyed smoking enough and I stopped smoking, it was hard-ish for days but now I don't even think about it and it's been a month. The point to remember is that I wasn't a heavy smoker, I only smoked 5 a day on an average if I went out with friends in the evening then I would end up with a day, but I don't go out much and I hadn't been smoking for long. So with support from my friends and knowing that my girl disliked it, I was able to overcome the urge to pick it up again.
Don't shame him or make him feel terrible for smoking, smokers become defensive when you do that.
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Instead try to chat in a way so that you come to a conclusion where they say they want to quit and you help them off from there start it off with something like, you think you can try quitting once again? I'll help you. Have some sort of small reward for every week or forthnight they go without smoking could be anything, you think of it yourself My ex flatmate used to be a chain smoker and a pothead, and he started when he was 14 he's 23 nowbut he went cold turkey for everything 3 years ago and since then he hasn't looked back.
He occasionally smokes like one or two cigarettes in two three months or more and that's about it, but that's nothing. The Albatross Member. Apr 15, 25, 2 0. Me, hated it. Absolutely hated it.
One of the reasons I dumped her, also because she was a complete jerk, but that didn't help things. My current GF is an occassional smoker who's trying to quit. Similarly, I dislike it, but I don't harangue her for it.
Jan 07, I was a smoker for 10 years. Heavy too. Probably close to a pack a day. I started dating a guy who did not smoke. At first he seemed to not really care, but after several months of being in a relationship with each other he told me that he would never marry a smoker, much less propose to one. I quit a few weeks later (at the end of the month of. If there are kink-friendly, polyamorous, or sex geek communities near you, that's a place Dating A Smoker to start-not necessarily Dating A Smoker because kinksters or poly folks are all into casual Dating A Smoker sex (we're not; it varies by person) but because that can help start building a sex-positive Dating A Smoker / Non smoker I Need Advice I'm considering dating a girl who is a daily smoker where I don't, nothing really against weed, but idk I'd there will be any problem with me being a non smoker who has to pass drug test at any moment with very Christian conservative parents.
She doesn't smoke often, but I don't like it when she does It's like, we're at a party and she's like "Do you mind if I have a cigarette.? I usually just say "you're your own boss, do what you want.
She basically just wants approval to make it seem like smoking cigarettes is okay. Barrylocke Member. Nov 26, 4, 0 I'm not speaking as someone whose ever been in a serious relationship, so take this with a grain of salt. But while I can see a potential mate being a smoker as a major turnoff and would prefer that they not, I don't think it could be an end all if we were compatible in other ways I find more important.
Granted, I would definitely be supportive of any wishes they have of quitting, and Nov 6, 26, 2 0. Thought they would quit eventually but it became clear they had no interest.
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Couldn't do it. Brakke Banned. Jan 21, 16, 0 0 www. Don't try to change him. Help support him to quit if he asks you to. But date the person he is, not the person you want him to be.
Dec 11, 33, 0 0 Bay Area plus. Right now. She smoke hookahs.
Does that count? DrFunk not licensed in your state. Jan 31, 19, 1 0 Planet Lovetron. Bomber Bob Banned. May 29, 7, 1 0. Yes had a nasty vag tho. John Kowalski Banned. Oct 31, 30, 1 0 among the creatures of the night. Sobriquet Member. Jan 11, 10, 0 0 Los Angeles, CA. Brakke said:. ScottSullivan Member.
Mar 19, 5, 0 0. My wife smokes, it sucks and I wish she would quit. Then I'm the jerk for getting mad when I have to freeze so she can smoke with the window open lol.