We all have different perspectives about dating. Some people see it as fun and full of possibilities; others downright hate it. For the latter group, their glum outlook on dating is understandable, as the path to finding a partner is often a difficult one. A few of us have even gone through hell and back before finding our love - a time of tremendous joy accompanied by a sense of relief. The uncertainty of dating has made some people fearful - a natural response to vulnerability.
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I relate to this in the sense that I need to develop a connection with someone before any romantic feelings appear, if they ever do, and so it makes something like dating very difficult, especially if someone wants to kiss me on the first or even second date. I don't experience romantic attraction that quickly and, while it'd be nice to meet new people and make new friends and see where it goes, more often than not the other person is already pushing things in a romantic direction even if they've agreed to meet under a friendly context.
Been wondering something similar recently - I seem to have a high romantic drive and interested in being with someone. Yet the few times I have told someone I like them or been made aware of someone being interested in me I seem to have run away or stop feeling so strongly. I used to assume it was because I didn't know how to explain my asexuality and so a relationship with the person on the parametres everyone seemed to define it couldn't work.
However, although it hasn't occurred since realising that I wasn't alone and cold explain my feelings, I can't help thinking it would be the same now.
Kind of makes me feel slightly guilty about letting on about my romantic feelings though. For me it seems to happen though in a lesser change for many emotions though, rather than just romantic - there though it might just be having someone to listen as usually negative feelings I've noticed doing this.
Glad I'm not the only one confused about this. I can relate to the social pressure.
My mom has always said to not let a guy pressure me to have sex before I am ready. While I think that is good advice, I feel more pressure from society than from guys. Do we really want boyfriends?
I am happy being around other single people for now. Life may be different in ten years; perhaps I will want a significant other of some sort when I want to "settle down".
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I am trying to figure out what I want vs. I think it is great that you want to build friendship and comfort level with the guy first before doing physical stuff.
The only thing I know about beginning a serious relationship is that you have to feel like you can trust the person.
For me, that would mean feeling safe spending time with the person in a private place, as opposed to a public place. I have been on dates where I was not comfortable going from a public place to a private place with the guy I stopped seeing him after the second date.
This relationship ended with a mutual break up after 3 weeks that left me more relieved than upset. There are other things to triumph about in life than "finding the one" such as for me building relationships with people I admire and respect, being regarded as "really good" at something for a career You sound kind of like me.
Minus the craving for romantic stuff like kissing, hugging, handholding - that only happens to me very rarely.
But I'm 24 and I've never dated. And I totally get the whole "seems alright in fantasy I think sometimes it's hard for some aces to know whether they are just asexual, or actually demisexual I guess you can only run with what you feel at the present moment.
I can't even say for sure that I might not be demisexual, but given that I have not met anyone yet that makes me feel that way, I am happy to identify as asexual right now. If your answers are "yes" and "no" you're definitely some kind of asexual. You may or may not be aromantic as well. If your answers are "yes" and "yes" then, given what you've said above, it looks like you're either grey or demi.
I'm aromantic and I have zero interest in dating just my perspective, not necessarily that of all aromantics. You seem to exhibit some common romantic qualities such as experiencing crushes and interest in marriage. You said that you would. If I had to take a guess, I would call you some type of gray-romantic or demiromantic. As for sexual attraction, you said you need a crush in order to have sexual attraction.
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I am exactly the same I want to have these romantic relationships with a guy, and I want to get married and have children, but, when I think about actually entering into a relationship, my heart kinda drops and I get really dodgy.
Like, with my last boyfriend, I felt so awkward and evasive, and he eventually broke it off because he couldn't handle it. Maybe if we get to know someone before we start dating it wouldn't be so bad?
I agree. I think it would be easier if I were to get to know someone before we date. Like being friends first would be ideal and then the relationship could develop naturally instead of being forced.
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The problem is that most guys don't want to be friends first. They seem to want to go straight into dating. I just can't do something like that since I have to form a connection first before dating.
I really dont know what to do. I kinda think thats why I cant have relationships.
I wish I could find guys who want to be friends first. I am thinking that maybe I'm a mix of demiromantic and demisexual depending on the situation. But I dont know for sure because I havent really explored my feelings. I'm in a similar situation to yours, more focused in trying to figure out if I'm asexual or demisexual. You said something really interesting: "I think its because I have to be interested first in the guy in order for me to be less fearful. And what has happened to me a lot I've had a few "suitors", but after the first date I think they are not what I'm looking for and I end up running away from them.
I think now I understand myself much better. That system of "I like you, let's have a date" doesn't work for me. What I need is to build a strong relationship, based in friendship at the beginning which will evolve to something stronger in time. That's when I would say: "yes, we should be a couple". I think it's highly probable that I'm asexual.
But I'm a person who needs confidence with the other person for almost everything friendship, physical contact, etc. The thing is that I haven't had that kind of relationship with anyone yet, so I can't know it for sure.
That desire of doing romantic stuff sounds like a romantic person and that's my case too. About gray-a, I'm not very experienced in that area, so it's difficult to express an opinion. I totally get what you are saying - I also thought I was the only one who experienced such a thing.
Otherwise it can get downright scary.
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One time I actually had a near panic attack when some random stranger came on to me and it was even in a very public area with lots of people around, so not even a lonely parking garage or some other place where even many fully sexual women would be worried and I really wished I could just vanish into thin air to get away. So basically the only time I welcome reciprocation is when I have a crush on the person first, which really does put a damper on any kind of searching that I might do to find a romantic partner.
But the problem in my whole life is that every guy I've had a crush on fits into one or more undesirable category - he's really the wrong kind of guy overall, he has some other issue with an ex or is willing to cheat on his girlfriend with me wanting only sex, of courseor, as in one case, he turned out to be gay.
So sadly, for those of us asexuals who are like this, in order to find someone suitable, it seems we have to have some kind of very rare planetary alignment of sorts take place for anything to work out. It would be pointless for me to date simply because some of the reasons some others have mentioned - so many men seeking sex so soon and that of course being the be all and end all goal for so many and not finding a life partner and friend first.
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