I'm not interesting in dating anymore, and I feel as though my sex drive has dramatically decreased over the past few months. It's not that I've never dated; I have gone on several dates and have been in relationships before. It's just that now I feel as though I don't want anyone at all. I don't believe in hooking up with random people either and never have. I feel like I'm more interested in doing what I want to do and focusing on getting my college degree. But is it normal that I don't want to have romantic relationships or have any sexual desires at all? I mean, I'm very attracted to certain guys, I just have no desire to sleep with them.
I don't really date. It's not like a "thing"; I'm not out on some crusade to be single. It just happens that I'm not dating, and I'm not especially going out of my way to change that. Only now, when I sit down to count it out, so I realize that I've been single for three years - because I've never once questioned myself about it. I've had bigger priorities, and in retrospect, looking back at all the weird places my life has taken me in the past few years, I can't imagine the strain of trying to keep something up with someone without limiting my options.
I have worked hard for the things I've wanted to make of myself, and being able to make snap decisions that I knew wouldn't drastically affect another person has been crucial to every little success.
I have absolutely no interest in dating anymore..?
And as archaic as this sounds, I can't date people I don't see myself marrying. It's not even a choice. I'm just simply not attracted to people I don't see a future with, and right now I'm at a place in my life where I'm not ready to commit to anyone anyway. I had one serious relationship in college, and broke it off when it started to look like we were going to change our plans to be near each other after graduation.
It seemed stupid to limit ourselves when we were so young.
And if that wasn't enough to sway me to stop dating for awhile, I handled it really immaturely. Like crazy texts from your ex immaturely, and I consider myself a very sane and rational human being. It was a sign, to me, that maybe I wanted to give myself a little more time to grow up before putting myself in that position again. So yeah, even though every now and then I'll dip a toe into the dating pool, I'm not a fan of forcing things.
I don't ever see myself dating online or using a dating app, not that there's anything bad about doing that. If it happens, it happens, and if it doesn't, well - honestly, I'd rather be alone my whole life than be with someone I wasn't in love with. But I notice that as comfortable as I am with that, there are some people who aren't. This can be both hilarious and exhausting, especially when they make their opinions known:.
This confounds me. If I'm talking to you already, then by the very definition of lonely, I am not. Still think about him often.
He was my "first" for sex and so most of my sexual experience was initiated with him. I had several sexual encounters after he left me and not one of them was positive or even enjoyable, in fact, most times I never wanted to speak to that person again. He was the only one with whom it felt "right.
Sep 03, I am almost 25 and a good portion of my friends are engaged, married, dating someone, in a relationship, or just going on dates or "seeing somebody." Or, even if they're not, they're actively looking, talking about guys or girls, etc. All my cousins, siblings, and family members are married or dating someone. I just have NO interest. Many people aren't interested in dating because they don't want to get married or have a long-term partner. The thing is, you can date and not have to be tied to someone forever. Or, you can choose not to date anyone and stay on your own, so you don't ever have to have "the talk." [Read: Should you get married? 14 ways to know if it. Jun 09, I'm not interesting in dating anymore, and I feel as though my sex drive has dramatically decreased over the past few months. It's not that I've never dated; I have gone on several dates and have been in relationships before. It's just that now I feel as though I don't want anyone at all. I don't believe in hooking up with random people either (and never have).
It doesn't really bother me that I feel this way. I am happy with just me and my 6 cats yes, I am that crazy cat lady at 24 years old. But I'm just wondering if I'm the only one out there that just doesn't seem to have those feelings.
You may not have those feelings because it's not in your makeup to do so, except perhaps with a very few people who "fit" especially well. You're not completely asexual, but sound very low libido. There's certainly nothing wrong with that, but if you do eventually want a relationship, it would more likely be successful if you find a partner who has a very similar libido level.
During this time I had a bit of interest in dating but that diminished after a few months and I broke it off with the man I was seeing. I just wasn't ready. Right now I have absolutely no interest in dating, sure I sometimes miss things couples do BUT I much prefer keeping my focus on my kids, improving myself and achieving my goals and dreams. I was interested in dating, but now I have second thoughts. Dating is extremely hard if you have little to no experience. And women are just too complicated to understand and deal with, not to mention all the list requirements a guy needs just to even talk to a woman and jumping through hoop after hoop just to impress her is not worth it.
When you were with your ex, how often were you interested in having sex? If 3x per week is "average" for most married couples after a few years, how do you compare in a comparable scenario? Who ever said you need to be with someone or in a relationship?
Do what feels best for you. Good for you!!! There is probably something wrong with you. All the other people perfectly okay with being in your situation did not come to C-D and create a thread about it. There are lots of people who don't want those things, including people who may engage in them, just because they feel pressure to do so. Nothing wrong or special about that what so ever.
As long as you are happy, and not hurting yourself or anyone else, yeah it's normal. But look, if you are OK with this, there is no reason to worry about whether you are normal, or not. You are who you are. If it's causing you some inner problems, comparing yourself to others is even more counterproductive.
I disagree with most of the other posters - I feel the exact same way you do. 24, very busy, have very much lost interest in pursuing relationships. It doesn't really bother me. I have had several girls interested in recent months but have had no desire to pursue them. Oct 28, A lesson I've learned in the murky field of dating in my twenties: if you're not attracted to someone on the first date, you are probably not . Mar 22, Because you might be asexual and not attracted sexually to anyone. Because you look out for a future date but then realise you're one of a kind and are maybe therefore socially awkward. Or you have been told that you are weird more often so you be.
In that case, it might be helpful to find out who you really are and maybe take a shot at finding out why. I am very similar to you, except I need sex Just don't think I need to be in a relationship to have it.
I have no interest in dating anymore
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. I talk or communicate with her many times a week. We go out for dinner with the kids together occasionally, celebrate Christmas etc I had a bit of a fling after the divorce with an old gal friend, but no more and I want to be a single guy for a loooooong long time now.
Happy as can be. If the right person comes along again someday, well into the futurethen maybe. Now, what should I have to eat tonight? I still feel the same as when I wrote that article almost a year ago.
And so far, no one has come along that makes me feel any different! During this time I had a bit of interest in dating but that diminished after a few months and I broke it off with the man I was seeing. Right now I have absolutely no interest in dating, sure I sometimes miss things couples do BUT I much prefer keeping my focus on my kids, improving myself and achieving my goals and dreams.
So happy to read this. Take your time!! I am a single mother of 2 boys and have been divorced for over 4 years now.
I went on my first date since a bad fling right after the divorce and I was surprised at how uninterested I was. I would much rather have gone out with some of my friends and spent the evening without the stress of a date.
Thank you so much for this article. Like someone about, mine was a 30 year relationship where I took a lot of crap, now I have my kids and myself and my dogs and life is good. No thanks. The thought of dating sends me into a whirl of emotions that lead me to feel almost sick to my stomach.
No thank you! I am newly out of a 26 year relationship and feeling very raw. It was very good for me to read these posts! I was like yes!
You are not alone in this! So grateful for this article and all of the responses!
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I have been divorced for about a year.