Whether you are a man or a woman, gay or straight, there will be moments when you think to yourself. I love South Korea and meeting people in this country is an adventure. You can be part of this adventure, but only if you understand what dating in Korea is really like. Take a look at the following eight unique characteristics about Korean dating culture and decide for yourself if you want to embark on what could be an interesting journey. It might be normal to walk up to a stranger and introduce yourself back home.
Whether you are a man or a woman, gay or straight, there will be moments when you think to yourself. I love South Korea and meeting people in this country is an adventure.
You can be part of this adventure, but only if you understand what dating in Korea is really like. Take a look at the following eight unique characteristics about Korean dating culture and decide for yourself if you want to embark on what could be an interesting journey.
It might be normal to walk up to a stranger and introduce yourself back home. It is, and it can also be fun as hell. Just imagine it. You just have to ask your friends or your family to introduce you to someone and a couple of days later you have a date. While blind dates are seen as last options in some part of the world, they are completely normal in South Korea.
Everyone and their grandmother go on blind dates. And it gets even better. There are different types of blind dates you can choose from. You can either be introduced by a friend or by your parents, or you can go on group blind dates. The choice is yours. Just make sure that you can trust your parents when it comes to choosing the right partner.
You might be up for a surprise. As someone who works in Korea, you know how much leisure time you have. Yes, exactly. Korean people are well-known for having extremely tight schedules and working until they burn out.
The fact is your Korean partner might not have too much time on their hands. The pressure starts in school and continues on when your partner has a stable career. In fact, it only gets worse. Even though South Korea has experienced rapid industrialization, and is considered to be one of the Four Asian Tigersits culture is still very traditional. Just imagine you meet someone you really like. You go on your first date and everything seems to be perfect.
You have the same values, the same goals, and the same vision of the future. Yes, Kissing in public is frowned upon, but showing your affection with smileys, text messages, and regular phone calls is completely normal.
Every meal has to be photographed and uploaded on Facebook. The majority of our readers are in the USA - maybe surprisingly.
If you disagree with what we have to say. Care to support this rediculous assertion?
Surprising, but true. Actually that is a possibility. The terminology seems to imply extremism. Definitely, there is a lot of bogus stuff online, so I always encourage people to meet me in person Free Seminars or talk to me on the phone or over Skype Free Consultations. Just FYI. Am I right? We could find out. This perspective makes me laugh because the reality of Korean women in Korea is sad. Divorce rate is highest in Korea because women really do suck!
Delusion ranks very high among Korean women in Korea! Not truemost of my guys find that Korean women are happy to chip in to help pay the bill, or will buy coffee on a date. How you come across will determine what kind of Korean girls you attract, AND also how you treat them.
The problem is that Korean girls are used to guys running spender game. ALL women want to feel like a Princess. This is Same in Parts of China. Naive guy. She will pay the cheap things, i guess she see as an investement in you, you will be happy to soend a. Try reading my comment before you reply and you might learn something instead of projecting your own bad experiences on me. The reason why Divorce rate in South Korea is so high is that the marriage rate is too high.
Before you blame Korean women for behavior what about respecting you guys first? The wage gap between men and women is the biggest in South KOrea among OECD countries and Korean men rarely participate in hoursehold work, which was clarified by randomly representative study that has scientific rigorous as opposed to your biased perception about expense of dating.
You clearly know nothing. You are describing Korean War experienced year old men! Today, guys do all the cooking and chores! Simply, because i am a girl. Your opinion is biased and hate filled, how do you think anyone can take your post serious. You definitely got hurt and now you are venting it against a whole group of people which is sad on your part.
If you think they are fake with whole your heart why did you even date one or more. It makes no sence. Also i think your post was very comical since you cannot even give vallid arguments or statistics to show. If You claim something you should show multiple studies to prove your dumb and childish claim. Korean women are the most spoiled, bratty and demanding women. Did I mention Korean women are the biggest gold diggers in the world? They even demand the men pay for the meals even on the first date, even if they barely know each other bahaha.
The idea is that women are supposed to be focused on family life, not on the commercial world. So, if they want to lead a nice lifestyle, they need to land a guy who can provide it. They get plastic surgery, stay in shape, do their hair and makeup, and dress well so they can land the best guy. Korean women are far from the biggest gold diggers in the world.
And I greatly prefer it to the western way, of women who work a lot are stressed, with little time to take good care of themselves and the way they look. Lol no. They are simply focused on themselves, not family. No one is forcing them to succumb to just being a housewife in this day and age. Way to completely miss out on the point. But this is really only a small percentage of women. Most women will push you around if you let themjust look at your average married man in America. I agree with you here too.
In any case, women are usually creeped out by the idea of guys actually spending time thinking about how to do better with their dating, relationship and sex lives. There are Many Men that put forth the Energies to want to know Women better. So How better that they Learn?
Take the floor and speak young lady! Agreed, I dated a korean woman in Australia and wow smoking hot body and gorgeous skin but money fucking hungry. I dumped her after the second date.
She bagged on me for being a casual at my job.
I had to pay for everything and she always hinted about needing money. She also acted like a brat in a taxi once. The cab driver was staring at her and talking sleezy so I warned him to back off so she got out of the cab leaving me to pay for it as usual and then she went to her unit and locked herself in and refused to see me.
She was being really over the top dramatic and always tried to get one over me.
She tried a third date but I told her to basically fuck herself. Those are ALL attributed to Upbringings, Gov influencing and wanting better than the hand they were dealt.
Yeah, Indian guys can do quite well there. One of my most successful clients is an Indian dude who worked at Samsung in Seoul. Study The language so you can at least converse and show a level of True and Purified Interest in the Women. I read your comment with interest.
I learned to speak the language with some proficiency and also understand Korean culture and customs.
While there were cts of life in Korea I enjoyed, overall the longer I stayed the more apparent it became that Koreans do not like foreigners and Korean women view Western men in a very negative light, like monkeys in the zoo. I noticed that when I looked at an attractive Korean woman in the street, as men generally do, she would invariably react with indignation and complete revulsion. Korean women have been conditioned and indoctrinated to view Western men with total contempt. And they do.
The vast majority of Korean females stay well clear of males of non Korean background, they avoid us like the plague and want nothing to do with us. Like Koreans in general, truth be told. I agree with all of your points about Korean culture and the pressure it puts on Koreans and the strong stigma against westerners and cross cultural dating.
However, I know a ton of guys who are absolutely killing it in Korea with the ladies there. There are plenty of ways to out maneuver the real issues you bring up because Koreans are quite independently minded on the inside.
Women are Smart and can Feel. Gives Real Men a Bad Rap! I agree in many points and I found your observation very accurate. I am a Korean girl and had a relationship with a american.
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I was told that I could never date a korean man again because I am kind of contaminated oh my god, this made me still so angry. If you are foreigner who wants to live in korea, you will be treated as foreigner and discriminated forever. I had some friends who totally enjoyed and got spoiled by some kind of special treatment at the beginning, but years later they were still not be integrated.
Not sure what the diversity of men in Korea looks like. Just curious though. I think it is stupid to expect so much from girls. I do wonder what the standards of korean girls are though. I think koreans are a bit too keen on dating westerners these days, just my opinion.
In any case as a Dutch-Korean born in Seoul, live in Amsterdam Would you not just box me into the same group as all korean guys since i look the part? I only want to point out that nothing is really black on white, it differs per person.
All of the things that make dating a non-Korean exciting without any of the draw-backs social repercussions, language barriers, etc. Ah that is an interesting point of view. For me it always felt that I am neither enough Westerner or Korean when it matters. Leaving me uninterested in living in seoul. So, how well established you are in Korea or screening for girls who would be interested in living outside of Korea is key. True That! It is Sad that So Many people can get thrown into the same cesspool no matter how well they may swim.
Good Traits Brother! People rarely Do for others More than they always do for themselves! It means they have more iq points to understanding others if they can. This is perfect, if you feel peoples around you have no enough understanding skills and may korea is a good place for founding a intelligent, high skilled women i want that so much, because if i stay here i cant find somebody like me.
I am an American man who has been dating a Korean woman for the first time. She is incredibly beautiful,intelligent,humble,and caring!! I never had any luck with American women,and I thank god for that.
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Korean woman are the best!! I finally found true love. I come to Incheon, usually every month or twolooking for a wife. I am US. Dear Ms. Chouchou, This is the first time I have written to a Korean woman.
I found your posting interesting. I am an American, 63 yrs. He would come in drunk with his friends at 4am, playing music and TV, stomping around, and mommy allowed it. I have lived the last 5 years in Thailand with a university educated Thai woman.
It is increasingly clear all she wants is my money. No true affection. She spends most all her day away. Not working, just gone. Probably a boyfriend. I have bought her a new car, motorbike, we live in a beautiful house with nice furniture, all I have bought.
We have traveled form Burma to Malaysia. I have traveled to about 15 countries starting with Vietnam in at 18, a Army private, soon to become a Staff Sargent.
Survived Vietnam, went to university and worked at the same time. I have an American friend, an attorney, long time married to a Korean woman, two sons, very happy family. Here in Thai we get a Korean TV channel. I often watch it many hours a day. It seems beautiful.
From the culture, to the dress and fashion, to the women. I am seriously thinking to move there, but I do not want to be a back packer arriving at the airport not knowing what the hell to do in a strange land.
Do you know anyone who would want to have a guest? Take care of me, show me around. I would gladly pay more than necessary. Also, poor relationship managementrewarding women for bad behavior by giving them more is always a mistake.
You hope eh. We know. White baby is exotic fetish in Korea in Japan and pretty much of Asia. You president is women for God sake. How much more equal could women get there get. She is useless ,we know. Just a window dressing to show to the World. You are not getting attention from white men because you just prettyyou are a snot or you are feminists pig.
Men could smell a feminists from a mile. And mostly you personality is shitty. See you are an asshole. Yes ,but with attitude like that all you get is ugly Asian guy and ugly baby in the end.
Smilesmile be kind to men its not that hard. No matter where they come from, where they live. I feel like your comment really strikes home though, and makes a lot of sense. However I feel like most men here in America would not be able to understand or appreciate Korean women and all of their wonderful traits, or much less any other guy from any other country, it does take a certain someone to love another person, but I feel like there is someone out there for everybody.
My wife is amazing because she is UnHui my amazing sliver lady and the mom for our 2 sons. Korea is and will always be my 2nd home- no doubt about that. Dae Han Inguk! Chouchou, you are right. You guys from Korea are special women and should be cherished as much as possible. You are beautiful, elegant, charming and some of them are really gorgeous.
As someone who has worked all over Asia for several years, the statement that Korean women have the best bodies in all of Asia is complete horse sh! They wear tight pants with fake butt pads and stuffed bras to give the illusion of being fit, but very few will take off their clothes without all the lights off because their fraudulent bodies will completely disappoint you.
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Japanese girls, on average, have far better naturally fit bodies and much better personalities. The fact that Koreans are actually taller on average than Japanese and many Chinese, especially southern, is a major contributing factor as well.
I would very appreciate to get some information about it. Wow I totally agree with her comment. As always, not all people has same behavior,though.
You sound like some 30 something yr old white troll. I guess the problem is they take their Korean wives back to the US. Now that I have Reached ish.
Livingston she was a Doll! I am a korean girl too and I can guess from your comment that you only met the bad korean men. I disagree with practically everything said above. Note that the above says they have the best bodiesnot that they are the most attractive. What is the point of this article.
Everyone knows that Korean girls only date white guys or Korean. Thanks for letting me know. I agree wholeheartedly about the lower levels of discrimination in Korea and Japan than back home in the USA. Many black guys prefer to be discriminated against for being foreign rather than for being black.
Korean women can be very superficial shallow and picky. If you are a man, you had better have deep pockets be ready to give and do a lot of things for her because they are high maintenance. Some korean women, especially the westernized ones are very whitewashed and have very little to no care or concern for their heritage and history. Thanks for your comments, though. Anyone with experience dating Korean girls will agree, that they are almost universally very high-minded, and pretty demanding.
Most guys who spend a good deal of time dating Asian girls also tend to really like Korean girls too though. We will have a post in the future talking about the issues you face dating Korean girls as well. And as for your last point about marriagevery few Korean girls actually want to date outside of Korean guys.
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VERY few. You can tell all of these posters below are fake wannabes who are just trying to give korean males a bad image. Korean men treat korean women as possessions? Ask the 1 to 2 million koreans living in the West and ask them if their dads treated their moms like possesions? Korean dads worked their asses off, sacrificed and did everything they could for their korean wives and children to make sure they could have a good life.
White men need an easy asian girl to put her in the kitchen and do the chores that white women used to do in the 30s, 40s but no longer willing to do in the 21st century but most asian women including koreans are still in the 30s, 40s mindset. How Korean husbands treat their wives is very different from how Korean men treat their girlfriends.
Additionally, the Asian girls that date foreigners are usually the ones who want to have more freedom to be outside of the home and work if they so choose. The Asian women who prefer to date their own men often do so because they WANT to be home and family focused and not feel pressure to have a job.
Dec 13, Korean women have attractive personalities. When we say "Korea", we mean "South Korea" (hopefully you get it). People living in South Korea are generally interested in travel, reading and having fun. Korean ladies are curious about the world, so many of them have been to other countries. As Korean girls are outgoing and open-minded, you. Korean women. Together, the two Koreas, North and South, occupy approximately , square kilometres, and would fit into the land mass of .
I will admit that I would love a woman, regardless of race or ethnicity, that was very domestically-capable and liked cooking and cleaning, but I would not ever take her for granted and want to lock her up. What kind of relationship does that produce? Yes they have been exoticized by many, but not all.
Some people are in it for the morals, family values, and so on. Stating 7 reasons to love korean women is such a racist and generalizing asian stereotype. Girls are girls and men and men.
We all love and want the same things. We have subtle differences yes, but to stereotype asians and claim that if you do certain things you can attract them but not attract white girls or black girls is very racist and short-sighted.
These women are not fetishized. Learn something about cultures. In the Middle East, Islam teaches that it is okay to chastise women, then avoid sleeping with them, and then mildly beat them. In Ancient Judaism it was acceptable to give up your daughters to guests as sex slaves. In the Christian world none of that is acceptable.
Those are WILD differences if you ask me. There are generalizations because anyone who has studied sociology knows that we as human creatures are programmed to keep one another in line or to spread our views to the masses.
It helps us to understand our lives and give them meaning when others accept what we like in the mainstream. Guarantee if you start questioning everything you do you will come to see that it affects even you. Study advertisements and their effects on others as well. When I look for someone of a different ethnicity, it is not for fetishist reasons.
It is because I would love to meet someone from a different culture, someone with refreshing perspectives on life and to see life in a whole new fashion. I would be looking for someone I can truly love and understand better and someone who has a better set of principles than the nihilist principles we have here in America that has spread like the plague. The belief that life is not about anything but money, sex, and anything else that is meaningless and shallow.
You call all of us out for stereotyping and yet, here you are stereotyping. I myself fell in love with Asian culture when I was a kid. When I was young I had a friend whose parents were black and Korean.
Every time I entered their home the house smelled like wonderful Korean cooking. His mom was polite and a strong, proud Korean woman and mother and his father supported her culture.
I also loved that when you entered the home you would have to take off your shoes and how clean everything was. If any man goes to Korea looking for a slave then he does not know what true love is and those men you can tear down and hate on. Because if you pick it up it dies and it ceases to be what you love. So if you love a flower, let it be. Love is not about possession. Love is about appreciation. As for me, I search for love, not a slave.
Someone who has morals and ethics and would know how to raise a child, rather than the nihilists here in America who teach them to give up because life is meaningless. Funny thing is you preach ignorance while preaching against it as well. Study sociology and you will notice there are differences in race and ethnicity that even in a melting pot such as America still hold strong from generation to generation inside the American culture.
Maybe its been in my experience and a couple of other black guys I know to find that we are pretty popular with Korean women.
They were not extremely old either. Like to be exact. Love this article though as it was really spot on. This is a great website. Being an Asian-American male, I love it how every other guy is putting us down. And Asian women are encouraging it. You know how many single Asian mothers I know here? They all have hapa babies and were all happily with their guy until they got knocked up and the guy bolted for a younger Asian girl. I love how every other guy on this site is speaking behind a keyboard saying how Asian men are shitbags, but these are the ones spending time talking shit behind a keyboard.
This comment will either be deleted or eviscerated by commentators but you know what? Keep doing what you are doing. Hopefully you all catch Herpes. This site is pretty much about Asians IN Asia. A lot of my clients are Korean-Americans and Chinese-Americans because when they come to Asia they realize that the game is different.
As for guys impregnating girls and then leavingfirst of all, most of these girls are not all that highly valued by their local standards. Because in Asia, there is a much stronger sense of family. Being an Asian-American you probably know how American women have really done a lot to destroy the concept of family with all of their talk of being independent and not needing a man. They were having un-protected sex of their own choice.
They decided not to take the pill. They decided not to use an IUD or any other form of birth control available to them AND they decided not to have an abortion. They signed up for what they got. You have to look out for yourself and recognize the potential consequences.
You have a girlfriend n am sure u jump in with no protection, if she falls pregnant, will you blame her? And since the consequences by din of biology are greater for her than for him, she should be more cautious about the risk of pregnancy. Lastly, so what if she believed the guy for saying everything would be alright. Trust the wrong person and you suffer the consequences. What do you do, sir? No doubt they have the best bodies in Asia, hands down.
On top of that. From my experience obviously. Good read, thanks. This is for people in Korea or in heavily Korean areas like L. Whatever you do, take the time to learn about the culture and share something of value with the other party.
My wife and I have a great relationship because we watched all the same shows growing up together from anime series of the 70s to American TVdespite being on opposite sides of the world. Can find more of these nice ones on aampmaps. Thank me later! Here are 5 reasons you should pursue a Korean girlfriend, today. If I met a cute korean woman like you just described, I would treat her like a princess and care for her my whole life lol.
Congrats, man! They can be a handful, so watch out!! They also know how to really put men under their thumb. Mad skillz. Met a Korean born girl in collegeshe came to the U. Korean, Spanish, Africanjust find a good woman. Ur personal porn stars. Korean girl friend. Have nice body features, takes care of me, educated.