What do you say about the reverse? I mean, I can see why an older man would want to date a younger woman - physically that is, but why would a year-old woman want to date a man 45 or more? I can totally understand why older men go for younger women. Time creates wisdom - but it also creates responsibilities and complications - mortgage, kids, career, etc. All of this makes dating more and more complex as we get older.
She was beautiful and fun and I learned a lot. I might have stayed with her but she ended up breaking things off with me. I guess I was just too immature for her back then. They thought she was like 28 or 29 maybe but never suspected she was 38!
I'm 26 now and would probably be with an older woman again if I found one I liked. Age is no issue and I don't want kids for a while so whatever. Age is just a number. If you love a person the number is unimportant!
I'll take a HOT, smart, independent, stable 40 something chick over a whiny, clingy unstable drama-queen 19 year old! Older ladies frankly, tend to have their crap a little more together in life. If anything I tend to go for women my own age or older. Whatever you choose, I think if 2 people are in love that's all that matters.
Things have a way of working out for the best. Good luck to you, I hope this helps! The only Issue is see is that females do not call older males "cougars" and "dilfs" and "fine wine". They call them perverts and predators and letches and DOMS etc.
That means every young guy with an older woman will eventually become an older guy and if his girlfriends are young Women call the boy toys of "perverts" and DOM's all the time for dating young women.
That is what makes older women ugly and why older woman younger male will never be a marital norm. It will always be like interracial couples. Its An alternate lifestyle but it will never even be as successful as interracial is. That is the main reason I would never date someone older than me. I dont want a cougar. I want to BE one. I dont want to become 40 with a 51 year old wife when I can become 40 with a 30 year old wife 21 yaers younger than the older wife.
My brain does that math. Then the guys my age who married women older than them are going to be looking at my wife going "yum" and I'm going to have to get out a can of whoopass.
Older woman younger male is basically a relationship between a woman with limited child bearing capabilities trying to create a long term relationship with someone who might want 5 kids and who has little money since a 21 year old guy has no career yet. So "househusband" isnt a very wise role for a male to take. Older man younger woman is extremely different. That is a proven relationship between a financially secure male and a very fertile female that has worked for s of years.
My mom was in her 20's when she married my dad he was in his 40's. She gave him a lot of kids and a huge close family. Something an older woman can't do for a person younger than them.
Mar 27, Absolutely! It is permissible, which is what I think you mean when you say "OK", for a consenting adult to relate to another consenting adult, at any age. If you mean "will my decision to date someone 22 years younger than me, affect my relationsh. What do you say about the reverse? I mean, I can see why an older man would want to date a younger woman - physically that is, but why would a year-old woman want to date a man 45 or more? Penelope. Dear Penelope, Beats the shit out of me. I can totally understand why older men go for younger women. So for a year-old, the upper age limit would be 34 (17 * 2). With some quick math, the rule provides a minimum and maximum partner age based on .
Even my mom agrees that older man younger woman is words apart from older woman younger guy in terms of longevity and workability and structure. Is it taboo? Age gaps wont be taboo until he turns 33 and chases a 21 year old. Then older women will call him a perv and he will regret having given one day of his life to you.
My girlfriend is 53 I'm 31 some people do have a problem with it mostly my family her family loves me. She has 6 kids the oldest is 9 months younger then me but were good friends her kids have all embraced me her grand children call me grandpa she has 15 grand kids.
Who cares what people think if your happy with each other go with it age doesn't matter if you get along with each other are friends and have common interests that's what matters. Enjoy life. I was 42 when I began dating a 21 year old. We ve been together for a year and all is great. It all depends on compatibility not age. You'll even be able to attract guys you might feel is out of your league. I suggest going on a bunch of dates before choosing one guy to be your boyfriend.
Have fun. I feel like I have super powers. Suddenly men make sense. I have a cousin that married a lady of 36 and he was They have a great relationship and truly enjoy each other.
Don't worry about making others happy, it is your life, enjoy his company and go for it. I just depressed? Perhaps crazy Or honest.
We alll die.
But freaking crap I didnt want at allll to die that much earlier than my husband. Grow old together, not watch you grow hecka old slowly die while I slowly watch and grow a hurt back to now deal with alone and poor due to medication s and medical bills and funeral.
I wanted to be. Ive seen sooo many mourn the death of spousesand. I think being in the medical field had really really jaded me and I hope distorted my view.
And this all crazy talk but. Not to mention honestly are you as fast as you were when you were 20s as in 60? Orrrrr 70s vers 30? Noooo the gap and body progression is real and when you hit 42 you age 6 months quicker every x amount. I was a cna geriatrics and am concerned of our future to where he married his future caretaker and ill be left screwed. You already had your 20s why take another s cause when you 70 and theyre 55 thats a huge difference in those years especially.
He could have found. Now im. With watching him. The pain is soooo real. And ask allllll the time why. And I ask why 15 years. Didnt spell. I love my husband and he adores me. Not wanting to travel or go to functions is a problem in personality differences than age. You two may have been a bad fit but I think the age difference may have been a red herring here. Enjoying life is can occur are any age.
A good indicator might be to meet the parents. Genetics plays a big role and the lifestyle they live. The advice I would give women dating older men is to make sure they stay fit, that makes a very big difference. Watch out for these red flags instead, his diet, is he fit, his parents looks is a great indicator, does he exercise, how much does he care about his looks and that applies to any age you date.
She wants to be treated like a child. She wants to be immature. I can take care of myself financially for now and if we stay together longer I imagine us having a similar dynamic as any younger couple where we work together not just me living off of him. Awesome words you write. We have been dating for 7 weeks. I separated 20 months ago from my wife of 23 years. I never imagined being with a woman 17 years my junior. Not that it was out of the question, it just never entered my mind that I would be with a woman much younger than myself.
We enjoy each other very much. Moreso me than her at the moment I Love her and want to spend what time I have left in this life soley with her. We have Many things in common, one of which, would be Very difficult to replicate.
I have asked her if she has seen anyone else since we met and she told me no. That is reassuring, but I am very paranoid that she may toss me to the curb for another, possibly, younger guy. This inspires me.
I met him when I was 21 and he was So reading through most of the replies kind of makes me sad of course. We have so much in common and we have so much fun together. But I love the life I share with him.
33 year old woman dating 53 year old man
Reading through the comments makes me sad again when I think about surein 20 years I will be 43 and he will be Good luck to you and your man. If both of you are clear about the most likely temporary nature of your relationship more power to you. Most relationships with a large age gap, whether the man or woman is older, tend not to last. Eventually that age difference starts to matter. No one is immune to time. We get slower and less healthy. Things may be all fun and laughs now but when you turn 33 and start to think about the fact that he is 60 you may feel very differently about the relationship.
At that point you may decide an attractive and vibrant 40 year old better suits your lifestyle, but your current man may not want to let you go.
Thank you very much. Thanks again. My relationship with kind of been bumy. This comment really bothers me. As if men can only agree or see relevance when their age group or kind is the exact type of men referenced.
They are willing to throw away long loving relationships with women for a night of lust. Men this age will chest and justify it like no other age group. Risking family life and hurting his partner.
You have to beg these men to get std test because they act as if their fragile little ego is so offended by something they should do anyway. They have never dealt with adversity. The slightest hardship will result in a nervous breakdown and the woman will be stuck babying them back to their male privilege health.
They are fake cultured. They travel the globe and take Snapchat but know nothing of the culture or people that they visit other than to sound pseudo cultured. They think experimenting with drugs is a romantic activity. No matter what socioeconomic class. Older men are men. They are decisive. They know how to open doors, let a woman relax, be sensitive when needed and string where it counts.
Millennial men are ridiculous and also now highly feminized. I will pass! Material issues.
Sep 20, Anonymous wrote:casual dating or serious dating? when I was 37 I dated a 53 year old. And he was not rich. Lovely guy, really handsome and sexy, but I ended it because the age difference was going to be too great going forward. I'd say late 40s/ But who knows, my other ex, who is 52, puts on his match profile that he wont date anyone over
Faster, easier, sex. I think you have a great point. But I have to add older men are better in bed too. I was 23 and my ex was 36and yes he robbed the cruddle. He wanted to mold me to what he wantedthe only trouble there is, I did grow up. As for daddy issues. My dad was never around at my young age. I seriously had more fun with my ex. And the young shall grow. Write back when he is That made me roll my eyes a bit. Honestly, why go out with a much older man if you still have to work hard to please him!
Surely the pay off of going out with a much older man is that he is working very hard to please you!! So a 13 year age gap is a daddy issue? He was still in your age range! Alot of men dont even have wives or kids yet at that age or are just settling down He cant even be your daddy cause hes 12 or 13 yrs older than you.
On another note most ppl over 45 shouldnt show much of an age difference so make that over Your spouse is still a young adult now so no need to worry about that now. Youre both adults I think its a a little immature for a man over 28 to date a girl under 24 but its nothing that bad hes barely over 35 I know alot of immature guys in their late 20s and 30s that only date and hang around ppl in thier early 20s.
On the latter one of older seeking younger ad 6. And whose doing is that? And yes you can appreciate your dad.
May 15, A year-old woman has way too much going on in her life, way too many experiences. She probably wants a family. She's got so many things she wants to do and experience that by the time she's 45 or 50, she doesn't want to be with a 75 or year-old guy, and that's understandable. Life is about the moment. Dec 30, My brother is 24 and currently engaged with a 40yr old woman who has an 11year old son that adores him and calls him Dad. My parents who have been married 42 years and very old fashioned, were extremely accepting of his choice, so I hope they would feel the same with me. I just turned 33 on Dec 29th and am being persued by a 21 year old man. Mar 07, True, another factor is judgment from other people, who may see a year-old going to dinner with a year-old and make judgments about which one of them is drowning in student loan butterfishny.com: Julieanne Smolinski.
Even if it starts out that way, the youngin will grow and realize the folly of youth. Better make sure she has no financial assets to take care of herself. If you are very rich, she will still leave you and collect alimony.
People can find others their own age to appreciate. Unless you are a movie star or famous person, keep dreaming. Appreciation is not a reason to get married. We both care for each other,and we never talk about our age we just live life one day at a time. Does she have the opportunity to become everything she possibly can be in life while in a relationship with you? I am 31 and my guy is 48, I am a nurse and he is a CEO of a company. When we first met I never asked how much he made or cared.
I felt drawn to him and he was so funny and fun.
The first night we met I ended up taking care of him because he had got really sick. He was really embarrassed, the following weekend we met up at a 4 day concert event where our love story began. I usually get along better with people that are older due to my views and values in life.
He is better in bed than ANY guy I have ever been with and he loves so passionately. He is kind, sensitive, smart, caring, and fun! I appreciate this man and love him with all of my heart.
I simply feel a deep connection to him and I know he feels the same way. We connect on an emotional level, a physical level, and a mental level. In life that is almost near impossible to find and there are people out there who never get to experience that with someone else.
I was lucky enough to find that someone for me. How well two people work together and understand one another. How that person brings out the best in you and wants the best for you. I could have a guy from many age groups. I go by what is right for me and for my guy. We have ups and downs like anyone else. That is normal. We grow and learn along the way. Life is so short and we are not promised tomorrow.
Others may and have that right to their own opinions. Thanks for the interesting read. Now we are both retired and we are closer than ever.
Don't Be the Worst: How to Date Outside Your Age Range
My own dad was affectionate with his 3 daughters but it was clear that my mom was his girl. That is what I got. My ex left me for a 22 year md singer and dancer. He was I was shocked that he he married her. She had nothing to give him. She took my home belongings, had an Invitro baby. I never had closure. May she have the dump of her life. Why are you mad at her and not him?
The sense of entitlement this woman displayed was truly unbelievable. But noooo. The Other Woman to whom he could have lied to get her into bed is at fault.
Ladies, sure get mad at the woman, too. The other woman is irrelevant to your anger. If this simple logic is not something you gals can get your arms around, no wonder there is so much dysfunction once a woman gets into a relationship. Karmic: WOW is right. When did I ever say otherwise? Frankly, I blame both of them for their actions.
Two people made a choice to betray their spouses and destroy two families. Now both have paid the price for that choice. She is now a single mother with no support and he wants to come home to me but that door is permanently closed. Those are some pretty snide assumptions you are making there, especially considering that I never said anything you could base those on in my comment.
She knew me and our young children. Our kids played together for crying out loud. She is a Narcissistic Gold Digger so, no, she was not some innocent victim that my husband lied to.
I like your posts. Most women on this board vilify uncommitted men commitment phobes, man-children, narcissists, etc. The anger seems so disproportionate to the offender. So you took it upon yourself to inform us of how very deluded we all are without any background information. I could pluck all kinds of things out of the ether and sound off on you for neglecting to mention them. Now see how silly that sounds? Ditto for the rest of us. If you actually care how we feel about something just ask before you criticize, unless criticizing is really all you wanted to do in the first place.
Please show me where I said that all men must commit to a woman. Forgive me for not expounding upon the topic to your satisfaction. Only to vilify the other woman, when the MAN - who was in the relationship with you - should be one vilified.
All three of you only mentioned all the details after I challenged what was written. Oh, I vilified him in spades. Was I under some obligation to tell you every tiny detail right off the bat? Do you get to dictate what we share publicly and when?
I took out the majority though admitted not all of my anger on HIM. There is no emotional investment in the woman. She is not someone the wife has a deep attachment to, therefore, it is easier to forgive the guy and blame the outside enemy. Not condoning it, just considering why it might happen. You felt the relevant details was to name call the woman. I would have commented differently had you and Stephan and Sharon wrote with as much anger towards the man as towards the woman.
Duh we can drop this now, right? Have fun. Mine left me for a younger woman as well, after putting us all through total hell for two decades with his drug addiction. That puts a whole different spin on things. A man in his 40s or 50s is likely either married or divorced.
Dude goes through a mid life crisis, leaves wife and kids for a younger POA who makes him feel all youthful again. Too late sucker. No take backs! He stuck with her anyway for a while to avoid being alone but he did eventually dump her. I have to admit that it makes me quite happy to see that SHE is now a single mother too because she left her husband to steal mine.
Karma is a beautiful thing! Walk a mile Derek, then come back and lecture me on my morality. My husband left me after 20 years of marriage to be with a 22 year oldHe is 57 years old.
The longest, best romantic relationship I ever had was with a much older guy. All that said, we were very much in love and it felt like we were equals. I know that people looked at us and thought things - esp. Well, not rank.
And, it turns out, in our lives. But we never talked about that stuff - we were just into each other and our work together. But it also feels like peace and happiness. I do know many successful May-December couples. The woman is most often the younger, but not always. Gotta get off the internet. My eHarmony guy is gonna call in a few. Not as exciting as Award Man, but very funny, nice. Older guys: higher social value. I totally buy younger women going for older men.
See it all the time. They only plan on being together for 15 years, give or take. Basically a really long LTR or a planned mid-term marriage.
The real rules about old and young you can date
Does anyone have a problem with this? He gets what he wants fantasies fulfilled, feels younger, arm candy, whateverand she gets what she wants that is, a comfortable life. Lance, the only problem is at 60, the old guy will not let the 43 year old go. Can she, yes she can but she has to be wise.
I am 53 and am on friendly terms with several women in their 40s, who are keenly looking for someone to settle down with. BUT there are plenty of women, desperately lonely, and will do almost everything to have someone love and care for them.
There are many more 40 year old women than there are 40 year old men. In person as well as online. I have dated ages both ways. Someone who most people know of, Sandra Bullock, has just been voted most beautiful woman in the world in some poll and she is a beauty at 51, and another familiar face, Christie Brinkley is a total knockout at 61, but there are plenty of beauties of that age on match etc.
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They have lots of experience and many good years ahead of them. I was married for 23 yrs before i found out my wife was cheating, I got divorced, then I met her, her family loves me. You want a young woman she wants a young man too. The younger men just want sex. You still look good and feel young, but the only men who want a real relationship with you are over Cause the person at a real loveing level alll you love about themyou watch their body age and them struggle to communicate and talk and it killllls you.
Some people actually love the person and the traits that create them and didnt know the age or couldnt tell and then love is there so oh well and too late. I think people should be mindful on the younger and understand what you could be taking and be kind enough to say no.
And marry your own age or closer and form a relationship to love with someone your own age. Wish he would have pushed me away a to save aallll this death pain. He could have found someone his age. I love him. KNOW what I would. It was selfish. At 48, Is He willing to remarry for his second or third time and also have kids with you and form a happy family?!
In the other side, Is he just using a young woman exploiting her prime youth for companionship but not committing in order to offer her a marriage and kids cause he will be a Grandfather instead. I briefly - very briefly - dated a 50 year old. He just knocked my socks off. Do THEY jointly plan on being together for 15 years?
Or does She? I ask because the VRD can live like Hef cialis, viagra. The grown-up events are very nice, and not something that a young guy can bring you to.
My family background has made me naturally drawn toward older people friends and romantic interests alike. Perhaps the fact that guys closer to my age are finally maturing has something to do with it. And lastly, in regards to the sugar daddy or rich older man phenomeon. Not necessarily the case.
Financially though, I suspect I have far more assets. Though I also know more than a few young ladies with a thing for Sean Connery. I believe she is an animal lover. These days a lot of women are holding onto their hotness. Prostitution is very quid pro quo, Vino. Would each have the same feelings if he were an old loser and she were a young ugly thing? It is not normal to fall in love with someone who looks like your dad.
But if he promises security, you might take him on the offer. I admit you might grow to care for such a person but chances are he chose the inexperienced girl to manipulate. When she grows up, game over. Some will even get you working 16 hours straight overnight hours whilst they sleep with their pot bellies hanging out. What does SHE offer?
What other ways? Deathslayer writes yet another priceless post. A choice quote or 2, so people can link over. You could have said, learn to play pool, take him to a sports game, or boating.
There were a ton of things you could have done to be with your man and make him happy. But the only way all you women could define yourselves was as three holes and nothing else. You are right. They are not that stupid.
They just accept it as the cost of admission, like paying a membership fee to join a country club or a cover charge to enter a night club. Older women appreciate younger men for the same reasons older men appreciate younger women. Younger men are more likely to have a flat stomach and all their hair. Perhaps to get back to that time of life when sex and relationships were merely sport and conquests? At any age. Is there an entertainment star you admire or did as a teen who is 12 or more yrs.
If so, it might amuse you in the coming decades to see how well THEY age.
How would being divorced with a kid appeal to younger women who are neither divorced nor have a kid? My husband was divorced with a kid when I met him. Love knows no stopping- I loved his little girl like the continuation of him. Selena Apr 8th at am 17 some men over 40 are quite rigid in their expectations and some of them are so bitter you wonder why they are dating in the first place.
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Firstly, thanks for all your advice and wisdom and your massively entertaining style. I got an email from my sister the other day. I also discovered that I could attract a ton of quality men, in no time at all, if I needed to go back out there.
It's a relief to know I have options.